Navigating "The Dip"

Whenever I work with kids, there's always this phase I like to call "the dip." Sounds mysterious, right? Well, let me break it down for you. Our sessions kick off with a nice vibe—a honeymoon phase that lasts for about a week or two, depending on how often we meet. But then…. We hit "the dip."

The dip is the place where everything seems to be falling apart. Objects might go flying, harsh words being thrown, and it feels like a whirlwind has taken over our session. In that moment, doubts start creeping in, making me question my own abilities. But things have changed. Over time, I've come to see "the dip" as an opportunity for reflection rather than a cause for panic. It's where the real work happens, where I get a glimpse into what the kids are truly going through deep inside.

Yeah, "the dip" can be messy. But it's also the place where we connect and make progress. It's where "rupture and repair" come into play. I'm honoured when the kids let me in, showing me their darkest bits, like saying, "Hey, this is what I deal with every single day. But if you come back next time, I know you're here to stay. You've seen the worst, and you're still here." And that's when the healing can begin.

Showing up, especially after the tough moments, is key. By being a role model for repairing relationships, we can show the kids that sticking around for them is totally worth it, no matter what. We can ignite that sparkle in their eyes, reminding them that they have someone who believes in them, even when they find themselves in the depths of "the dip." They'll remember how we helped them out, and they'll find the strength within themselves to pull through or ask for help.

So, yeah, "the dip" isn't just a downward spiral. It's a bumpy road that leads to growth, understanding, and renewed hope. Through our presence and belief in the incredible kids we work with, we can help them get their sparkle back into their eyes and the joy to live for their passions and dreams.